Feeeeeelings....

Is It Getting a Little Hot In Here?

This is for all of you who are feeling a bit wilted or toasted under under the early season heat lamps of our late Spring or perhaps feeling a bit chilled in the cooler. Actually I am not going to talk about Global Warming or inclement weather - rather I am going to talk about feeling comfortable when for some reason we might otherwise be expecting to feel uncomfortable.

Now I know that the weather might feel uncomfortable. We can feel too hot for comfort and too cold for comfort and it is our body giving us important information for our survival. But there is more involved with feeling comfortable otherwise people living in Virginia wouldn't be reaching for winter coats at temperatures that people from Chicago might be stripping off their sweaters at - and that is taking into account "humidity". I think there is a large psychological part of things which is why there is a lot of "getting used to the water" involved in activities such as swimming.

Now it is true that with swimming it does actually take a bit for our bodies to adjust and the actual blood flow changes to take into account that water will pull heat away from our body faster than air even if the water is the same temperature as the air. But consider that at the beginning of the "summer" season a temperature that feels sweltering will in the middle of the summer feel comfortable - a breath of fresh air. The same goes for winter, but as we are getting towards the end of spring I will write mostly about summer heat.

I used to be miserable in the summer heat.

Now of course this worked for me and might not for you. I discovered when I was diagnosed with diabetes that I was chronically dehydrated. Our body has some pretty marvellous systems for cooling us down if it has enough water to work with. Even when the humidity is high enough that our sweat isn't evaporating properly from us and our clothing is becoming wringing wet instead, we can drink a glass of ice water and get rid of it shortly at body temperature and that heat had to come from somewhere! Our kidneys are pretty good at retaining the salts an minerals that we need as well and so every time you tinkle you cool down somewhat, even if it is a nuisance. I guess it is easier if you work or play somewhere that you can take tinkle breaks as needed.

So I drink a litre of water, a little while later, maybe half an hour, I head to the washroom and then when I come back to where I am working I refill my bottle and drink another litre. It keeps me cool. (actual mileage may vary)

I also discovered that when I am cranky and complaining I feel worse. The more often I say "I'm too hot." the worse I feel. I also discovered that when people are around someone who is grumbling about being too hot, they tend to get cranky and the whole bunch get more uncomfortable. But if someone is there and cheerful and bright - but not too cheerful perhaps - then the mood lifts and people feel more comfortable and not so bothered by whatever the climatic situation.

So, I try to drink plenty - making sure that most of it is water - I try not to keep complaining and rather enjoy it - we can enjoy a much hotter bath, sauna, or hot tub after all - and I do make sure to be in good health as possible.

I guess that last bit fits with the first bit of drinking plenty of water. I am still prone to heat exhaustion and sunstroke. so I have to be careful and I do take some medicine that precludes me getting too much sun. Young children, the elderly, and infirm do not have the full marvellously working cooling system a healthy adult has.

We can handle the temperatures if halfway healthy over a great spread provided we can shelter from sun, wind, and water. I have worked at temperatures from freezing to summer heat in coveralls, work pants, and T-shirt and I am no great Olympian of stamina.

We actually can stand greater summer heat than a lot of animals like dogs. We just have to remember to modify our behaviour a bit. That is what animals do. "Only mad dogs and Englishman stay out in the Noon day sun." Or something like that is how the saying goes. Stay out of the heat of the day and dress according to the weather. Wear sun hats, hats that keep the sun off your head and perhaps with a brim to keep it off your face shoulders and neck. Sun hats also tend to be ventilated so as not become little pizza ovens on our scalps. There are reasons for straw hats.

But just try and say, "I'm going to enjoy the fine summer weather. I'd pay big money to get this in Hawaii. I can enjoy this nice cold water. The summer will end all too soon.

If all else fails, pretend you are on an adventure to some exotic hot place like Africa, India, Polynesia, The Amazon, The Australian Outback, or Saskatchewan.

Later!
~ Darrell

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Friends We Can Hug

Those We Can Hug and Those We Can't

I believe in life after death so I don't think that death is an ending for a loved one. Of course I still grieve at the passing of that loved one. I know that there are some who might not understand that if I truly believe that they continue on.

But even with there being eternal life, there can still be loss and stages of grief. We can very much miss our loved ones.

I see love as timeless and the love we can feel for others as being timeless as well. My love for a friend does not end when they leave the room, the suite, the apartment, the city, the province, or even country. Even if they are on another continent I still feel love for them. I keep them in my heart and cherish my feelings for them. For my good friends, I know that they think of me as well when we are apart.If you consider a loved one, can you feel them in your heart and the love between them and you? I know I can feel it like something that actually exists on a physical level.

In life I have grow used to instant communication. The telephone has been for a large part behind that. We reach out and we can talk to most anyone in "the now". When I was little though more communication was done through postal mail. I can remember when Canada Post brought in the national "Postal Code" system. They were touting nearly next day service in the same city and the day after in other major centres with rural centres only being a little after that. They never quite delivered on that promise... I still expect mail to take nearly a week... or like 5 business days.

Getting back on track - sort of - I have thought about just how long mail used to take in the days of sail when relatives travelled to faraway places to start new lives. Even up to the 1950's well after the days of sailing ships - before the time of frequent air travel for your typical family - contact was often by letter which might take weeks to arrive at the destination.

There have been many times a person has been reading a letter sent by a loved one and all is well, only to find out that at the time they were reading that letter their loved one was ill or actually dead.

But, while reading that letter, at that moment for them that loved one was really and vitally alive!

I think that this feeling of love and life are crucial and have a reality. If the friend or relative were alive, you would think of them really as someone you loved, that you simply couldn't just reach out and hug - someone you couldn't walk or drive to in an hour and see.

The person whose letter they might be reading who had passed on would really be little different. They would be a friend or other loved one that they simply could not hug.

I think that when you are talking about or thinking about a person, in some way they are with you and that it doesn't matter if they are alive or dead. We carry a bit of them with us in our heart and soul.

So when someone that is close to us dies, then it is good to talk about them and in particular to share common experiences with others. I think that draws them closer to be with us and there is a gathering of those friends we can hug and those we can't.